The Secret Midlife Women Miss About Feeling Good in Their Body


Hi Reader!

The women who are actually happy with their health and physique, are doing what most aren’t:

They’re dialed in to their psychology.

The (often unconscious) beliefs driving their behavior.

Most women who feel a gap between where they are and where they want to be, fall into two camps:

Procrastination
or
Believing they’re the exception

I was both.

Why?

Because of how we’re beautifully created!

We're not biologically wired to act today for a better—but uncertain—future.

So we delay… until the pain of staying the same outweighs the pain of change.

And we also believe we’re the exception ...

While we are unique—it's how humans thrive in a diverse group.

What we are not, is the exception to proven biological mechanisms (muscle, metabolism, hormones, or bone health) in the body that can build and can also break.

Take notice of the unconscious dialogue running in the background.

When we truly pay attention and tune it, it's an all out negotiation:

“I’ll work out when this project is done.”

“My family has osteoporosis—I’ll probably deal with it too.”

“My situation is different from women with more time or money.”

“I’ll wait until this injury fully goes away.”

“It’s not that bad… I’ll deal with it.”

You get it.

Try this today:

Notice when the thought comes up:

“I should take action to get stronger—and finally recover the way my body needs.”

Then notice the very next thought ... Is it:

“Later”

“It’s not that bad”

“I don’t have time”

“I’m too tired”

Don’t judge it. Just notice it.

Tomorrow—shorten the gap between the thought and the action.

Don’t give yourself time to negotiate.

Make the action ridiculously small so it feels doable forever.

Rinse and repeat daily.

Within a week, you’ll notice:

less mental noise eating up your bandwidth

more showing up for you

a little less bloat, a little more energy

Freedom happens when you remove constant self-negotiation.

And this is the gap most programs miss:

knowing → doing

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and your body pays you back in dividends for life.

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Cheers to thriving together,

Alyssa
PharmD | Certified Strength & Conditioning Specialist | Precision Nutrition Certified | Girls Gone Strong Women’s Coaching Specialist

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Aloha Alyssa Fit

Online Health Coach for Women. Get stronger and leaner with evidence based nutrition, strength training and nervous system regulation. Most importantly, I help you bridge the gap between "knowing" and actually "doing" by leveraging: habit formation, accountability and community.

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